According to wikipedia "Emigration is the act of leaving one's country or region to settle in another. (..) There are many reasons why people might choose to emigrate. Some are for reasons of religious, political or economic freedom or escape. Others have personal reasons such as marriage. Some people living in rich nations with cold climates choose to move to warmer climates when they retire."
Well, neither of these reasons apply to me, but nevertheless I decided to move from Germany to England where it always rains and the men are not really classified as the most attractive ones in the whole wide world. When you have lived in a foreign country before, you might know how different, awkward, funny and difficult your daily life can become.
Here are some highlights of my life in London Town.

September 11, 2011

The Great British Weather


I simply had to write a post about that subject sooner or later. It is small talk topic no 1 in England, there are even TV shows about The Great British Weather, and everyone abroad mentions the bad British weather first and the bad food second - even though I really like English food, but this will be another post!

First of all, the English weather-speak is a form of code. It's either ritual greetings, like "Nice day, isn't it?", conversation starters, "Still raining, eh?", or default fillers, such as "Ooh, isn't it cold today?!" I have to admit I use it as a filler quite often. If a conversation gets stuck, I usually come up with the weather talk.

And, I have to say there is a lot to talk about, because the weather here is changing so quickly. Yesterday, I went for a walk in the park. When I left the house, it was super sunny and hot. I was wearing a shirt and sunglasses. As soon as I arrived in the park and sat down on a bench, it started raining. I took out my new umbrella and my cardigan, and decided to walk home. But I noticed no one else was bothered by the rain. The boys were still playing football and frisbee and the parents were still sitting around, enjoying their picnic. I swear it was pouring down when I took that picture: 


In England you have to be prepared for everything: sunshine, rain, wind, clouds. I usually carry a big bag with me that includes a cardigan, a scarf, sunglasses, an umbrella, tights and sometimes a second pair of shoes, because you never know how the weather will be in an hour. I consider it as a good thing, though, because if it's raining, it's very likely that the sun will come out soon again. And often it happens at the same time. I haven't seen as many rainbows in my life as in London:


September 5, 2011

Events: Notting Hill Carnival

On Monday a week ago, I went to the famous Notting Hill Carnival. I was very excited since I'm a big fan of the Carnival of Cultures in Berlin:
http://www.karneval-berlin.de/de/english.175.html

Most of my friends didn't wanna go, though - some are afraid of big crowds, some have still the riots on their minds - and  my English friends told me only tourists go there.

But I was intrigued since the Notting Hill Carnival is held each August Bank Holiday since 1966 and is the largest festival celebration of its kind in Europe. Every year the streets of West London come alive, with the sounds and smells of Europe's biggest street festival: http://www.thenottinghillcarnival.com/

So, we arrived around noon and I had the chance to get very close to the parade participants and saw some stunning costumes:



What I really liked in Berlin was, that we actually participated in the parade in the end. There was a truck with electronic music and lots of young people followed it and we all danced and had  an amazing time. In  Notting Hill, I also discovered a guy who actively took part, at least in the musical side of the parade. He was standing on a balcony, had a couple of instruments with him and played whatever fit the best: drums, guitar etc. 


I very much enjoyed most of the parade, but there were also scenes that really annoyed me and I'd describe as "not sophisticated". I think a day like that is a great opportunity to present your culture to a broad audience and you shouldn't miss that chance by performing vulgar scenes.
But all in all, if you would like to get a glimpse of how the Carnival in Rio might be, you like Caribbean food and Latin music, go there next year - preferably early in the day! But don't forget your sanitizers ;-)




September 4, 2011

How To Get the Guy

Yesterday was probably one of the last summery days in London and I have to admit I spent it inside. I attended  a seminar about "Find Mr. Right with the UK's top dating coach?!"
A friend of mine invited me, it was for free (check it out on meetup.com because unlike most of the other girls I didn't pay a penny for it) and you know I'm always interested in:
1) What kind of people, in this case women, go to a seminar like that and why?
2) What is he/ she gonna tell me I don't already know?

First of all, I have to say I was very surprised to find more than one hundred young, very good-looking, smart and charming girls there. I was thinking how can it be that they can't find the right guy? Matthew answerered it by saying that we behave differently around the one guy we actually like - which is definitely true. And some of the girls told me they don't even feel confident about smiling at guys they like. That's also the reason why we always attract the wrong guys. We are relaxed and chilled out around them. Some girls said they even postponed their dates in order to use what they would learn in the seminar. That's how insecure some of them were even though they seem so attractive and successful in other parts of their lives

Second of all, I know exactly why the media (he talks on the BBC, ITV, CNN and is in all big newspapers and magazines) and also women love Matthew. He is very handsome, charismatic and a brilliant speaker. Check him out for yourself:


In my humble opinion, his presentation yesterday was too much rehearsed. But I could see that it worked with most of the other women in the room. He is very experienced in speaking and coaching. He used to be a life coach for over 5,000 businessmen who not only asked him for advice in their professional lives but also regarding dating and relationships. He now coaches women, because he knows men inside out and wants to help women to improve their love lives. 

Third of all, he actually gave some interesting insights and points, e.g. the 3 step process how to attract a guy without obviously doing the first step and getting yourself in a possible zone of embarrassment:
1) Give him the look
Look at him for 1sec and then look at him again for 1sec with a playful smile
When Matthew first asked around for how long you should look at the guy someone said 30 sec, lol.
2) Get Closer
This one is about comfort zones and he explained that when someone stands in front of you, he/ she is too close, but when someone stands next to you, for example at the bar, it's even ok that this person touches your shoulder, right?!
3) Ask for a favour
It's easier to talk to someone if you ask him a favour, like could you hold my coat for a sec. Then you can say thanks and start a conversation. Plus, men like to provide and protect, so they feel great if they can help us with something.

This "Secrets of Attraction" seminar was just a little taster of the insights and practical advice that Matthew and his team of coaches deliver on the "Women's Weekends" which costs about £750. I didn't sign up for the weekend, but probably 2/3 of the girls there yesterday did.
I'd say your love life is very important and if you have been unhappy in a long time, then I think it's good to get some advice. But if you just want to know some little tips and tricks, check out Matthew's website: http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/